This is a subject that has been irritating me for ages. Both hubby and I work full time, yet at weekends I am always the one that is more tired. The one that by Saturday night, is in her pj’s laid on the sofa at 7.30pm.
Hubby never understands why I am so tired. I always feel bad about it as we both work full time and both equally look after the little monkey at weekends.
Then Saturday afternoon, after sitting working out what was for dinner and then thinking about what load of washing needed to go on next, it hit me…not tiredness this time, but the thought that I finally understood.
The reason why I am so much more tired than hubby is because he does what I get him to do. He doesn’t have to think about what needs to be done, packing the swimming bag on a Saturday, remembering snacks to take. Ordering the food shop on a Friday night for collection the next morning. The list continues…
It clicked in to place, and I felt better. That feeling of guilt I often get about just needing an hour to go to the gym by myself was somewhat much more justified now.
I have made myself feel guilty for years wanting to go to the gym and leave the monkey and daddy at home on their own. Or wanting to go for a coffee with a friend one Saturday afternoon.
We both work full time. We should both get time on our own as well as important family time.
Yet I always made myself feel so bad about leaving them for an hour or two. Even though, when I had plans to do my own thing, I still organised everything before I left. Lunch, snacks, putting a wash on and getting it on the line, any cleaning that needed to be done, food prepped for dinner so I didn’t have to do it when I got in later.
If hubby wanted to go to watch his mates play football, he would just walk out of the house and say bye.
That is fine. That is the way most men operate, and I am not complaining. I am just stating something that I hadn’t thought about before.
It is part of the job description of being a mum that no one tells you about. Mums are going to be a lot more tired than the dads. We are the ones that put the plans together, the ones that oversee the household, regardless of if you are a stay at home, a part time or a full time working mum.
Finally after 2 and a half years of being a full time working parent, I get it and I don’t feel bad about it anymore.
That’s why I need a little more ‘me time’ at weekends than hubby – so that my brain can officially switch off for that magical hour on my own and I don’t have to think about what needs to be done at home.
So, mums, next time you feel guilty about popping out and doing something for yourself, don’t. You are the boss of the whole house, and the boss needs a break.
Busy Working Mummy XOXO
*post first seen on meetothermums.com