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Am I classed as a young mum?

With parents getting older and the average new mum now being in her 30’s, times have massively changed.

My parents had me in their early twenties, as did a lot of my friends parents have them in their twenties.

I feel quite conscious when I am with little man that I am now what is classed as a young mum. Picking him up from nursery it is always clear that I am considerably younger than a lot of the other mums collecting their children.

Do they look at me and think that I am too young? That I have thrown away my youth?

Do I look at them and think maybe I should have waited a bit longer, so that I could enjoy being young and free for longer?

But the truth is, being a young mum is great. When he is 18, I will only be 43 and I will be able to get my life back.

I say get my life back…I don’t mean that in a bad way of course. I will still be young enough to have a good career, have a social life and enjoy holidays and weekends away knowing I have a grown up son.

My parents had my brother 11 years after having me so I grew up an only child until I went to secondary school. He is growing up as an only child now as I moved out when he was 6.

My mum was a young mum when she had me, yet 11 years later when having my brother, that was the new average age of having children.

So why should I feel so self conscious about being young and being a mum?

I work full time, we work hard and enjoy spending time with the little man at weekends. We don’t have any help with living over 200 miles away from both sets of our own parents.

I am proud to be 27 and doing it our way, and on our own. It gives me a great sense of achievement. My confidence has grown hugely over the past 2 years when it comes to the little monkey.

I may need to work that bit harder to listen to my motherly instincts as that is something that doesn’t come naturally to me….but as long as I don’t stop trying, I am happy to be seen as a ‘young mum.’

Are you classed as a young mum or did you wait until a bit later in life to have your children?

Busy Working Mummy XOXO

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17 thoughts on “Am I classed as a young mum?

  1. I’m 28 and have a 1 year old. Living in London I felt very young as lots of my Mum friends were in the late 30s but now we’ve moved farther out and I have loads of Mum friends the same age. However, amazing how motherhood unites you and you don’t notice the difference anyway! #TwinklyTuesday

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  2. I had my first baby at 20. Now I am 32 and my eldest will be 12 in just 2 weeks time. I feel very young compared to other mums when I have to go to his school. But I also have two younger children who are 6 and 7, and I would say the age of the mums of the kids in their class varies . #TwinklyTuesday

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  3. I wouldn’t say you are a young mum at all (in the nicest possible way!). I think a young Mum to me is someone who had their baby in their teens or very early twenties. I had my eldest at 23 and I never felt like a young mum, in the same way I had my fifth at 33 and again I didn’t feel like an old mum. xx

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  4. It’s weird how things change as when I had the Tubblet, 13 years ago, I was one of the oldest mums as I was in my 30’s and everyone else was your age. TBH, I don’t think anyone thinks anything of it, as long as people are friendly and nice, there’s so much else going on. I think we worry about things like this more

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  5. I had all my babies in my thirties and it was challenging. At 54, I still have teens here at home. On the other hand, my oldest son married at 18 and had his first child at age 21. I think God gave younger people all that energy for a great reason!

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  6. I was 26 when I had my first daughter. My parents had my sister when they were 17, by the time they were 26 they had 3 kids so in comparison I didn’t really feel like a young mum! #twinklytuesday

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  7. I know what you mean. Especially because I have twins I feel super conscious, because I’m 23 I feel people straight away assume i can’t handle it. Which some of the time I can’t but, regardless I think it’s great being a young mum 🙂 #twinklytuesdays

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  8. I was 20 when I got with my partner who already had a little girl who was 3 and a half at the time. She’s now 6 and I’m 23 next month. Sometimes when I do the school run I feel super self-conscious that I’m so young in comparison to other mums, but it doesn’t make any less incompetent. I often tell myself there are 7 billion people in the world, I’m not going to let a few of them who judge me affect what I do! Life your life as you want, and keep being a brilliant mama!
    Becky x

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  9. I was 28 with my first and class myself as in the middle really. Some school friends had kids in their early 20s and a lot of my work colleagues had their firsts at 30 plus. I feel quite happy where I am 🙂 interesting read! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst xz

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  10. I definitely felt like a young mum when I had my first at 22..I’ve just had my second at 25 and still feel young compared to most other mums around me. Most of my mum friends are in their 40s..I don’t feel like anyone is judging me though xx #twinklyTuesday

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  11. I was 24 when I had my daughter in September (I’m now 25), but look a lot younger than I am. I wouldn’t really think of myself as a young Mum, but everyone at the groups I go to is definitely older than me and I feel like they’re judging me sometimes. The funny thing is, I’ve been with my husband for 9 years so have been with my partner a lot longer than many of them have been with theirs and I’ve been working since I was 16 (part time while I was in education). #BestAndWorst

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  12. I had my first child at 20 then fell pregnant with my 2nd 10 months later. I did get a few looks when i had my eldest in his buggy with a bump in tow! I am very petite though and look younger than i am. I don’t see 30 as a young Mum . I would say between 16 and 21 is young. All that matters is that you do the best for your kids, age shouldn’t matter. I am glad i had mine when i did. Im 30 now and have a great connection with my sons. We like the same music, tv programmes and they are able to open up to me. And they don’t see me as embarrassing (yet) 😂

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