So a question that had been poised to me last week was this:
‘So you work full time, and go to the gym 4 times a week. Do you not feel guilty about not spending weekends with your child?’
In answer to the question, no not really. Does that make me a bad mum?
Being a full time working mum does really test what are priorities in my life. Of course little man is my priority. But I also work 40 hours a week, and then spend Saturday and Sunday with him. So, I do still require a little bit of time off for me.
I don’t class work as time off as it does require your brain to be on all the time. Having an hour off of being an employee and a mum doesn’t make me a bad person – it means I am a normal person trying to find the right balance.
Daddy does a lot for little man and we do work as a partnership when it comes to making sure he is always our priority.
He helps with the nursery drop off a couple of times a week and picks him up at least once a week for me; then I do swimming lessons on Saturday and he does football on a Sunday.
This ensures we both get our own time in between full time work and looking after little man.
Maybe it is a full time working parent issue – some may frown at the fact that we leave our children for 9 hours a day Monday to Friday and then still choose to have an hour of me time during the weekend.
Of course I want to spend every minute with my little man. Well I say every minute….not so much when he is having one of his legendary tantrums. The ones that result in him running round the house screaming NO at the top of his voice while throwing anything he can get his hands on.
So the battle of the working mum guilt continues on….I just never thought it would be the feeling of not feeling as guilty as maybe I or other people think I should.
I am now about to have 5 days off with little man whilst enjoying time with family at my brother in laws wedding.
This will be the last substantial period of time off with him this year until Christmas so I definitely plan on making the most out of it.
Do you feel guilty for not feeling guilty? Or do you feel guilty for wanting me time?
Busy Working Mummy XOXO
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