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Am I guilty of too much me time?

So a question that had been poised to me last week was this:

‘So you work full time, and go to the gym 4 times a week. Do you not feel guilty about not spending weekends with your child?’ 

In answer to the question, no not really. Does that make me a bad mum?

Being a full time working mum does really test what are priorities in my life. Of course little man is my priority. But I also work 40 hours a week, and then spend Saturday and Sunday with him. So, I do still require a little bit of time off for me.

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I don’t class work as time off as it does require your brain to be on all the time. Having an hour off of being an employee and a mum doesn’t make me a bad person – it means I am a normal person trying to find the right balance.

Daddy does a lot for little man and we do work as a partnership when it comes to making sure he is always our priority.

He helps with the nursery drop off a couple of times a week and picks him up at least once a week for me; then I do swimming lessons on Saturday and he does football on a Sunday.

This ensures we both get our own time in between full time work and looking after little man.

Maybe it is a full time working parent issue – some may frown at the fact that we leave our children for 9 hours a day Monday to Friday and then still choose to have an hour of me time during the weekend.

Of course I want to spend every minute with my little man. Well I say every minute….not so much when he is having one of his legendary tantrums. The ones that result in him running round the house screaming NO at the top of his voice while throwing anything he can get his hands on.

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So the battle of the working mum guilt continues on….I just never thought it would be the feeling of not feeling as guilty as maybe I or other people think I should.

I am now about to have 5 days off with little man whilst enjoying time with family at my brother in laws wedding.

This will be the last substantial period of time off with him this year until Christmas so I definitely plan on making the most out of it.

Do you feel guilty for not feeling guilty? Or do you feel guilty for wanting me time?

Busy Working Mummy XOXO

*Post first seen on meetothermums.com

A Cornish Mum
The Pramshed
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25 thoughts on “Am I guilty of too much me time?

  1. I don’t go out to work, but I still want time away from my child at the weekends, despite him being a school or at preschool and no one has ever picked this up as a ‘bad’ thing so wonder if you’re right. The Judgey McJudge Pants just struggle to reconcile a working mother as a woman in her own right. But that’s the point. Its someone else’s opinion and not yours. Their problem, not yours. Don’t take it on. You know what you’re doing is right for your family.People can only make you feel anything, if you allow them to.

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  2. Oh dear God, no! Mum needs to be focused and happy in order to stay afloat. I’m a big believer in me time. I just wish I had your motivation so I could use mine to work out! #picknmix

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  3. I don’t feel guilty when I spend time away from my kids – I work full time , but that’s work and I’m still entitled to have some time for hobbies etc. I spend most weekends with them 24/7. And I don’t feel guilty for not feeling guilty – that way madness lies ! #fortheloveofblog

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  4. I already feel guilty and I haven’t even gone back to work . As she goes to my moms once a week whilst I’m at uni . You have to make time for yourself else you will go mad. This is something I have come to learn . #fortheloveofblog

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  5. I don’t feel guilty for me time, I don’t work now, but have done in the past when I went back after my first. It’s so important to have time for yourself. It certainly makes me more sane, and I think the times that you do have with your children become more precious somehow (does that make sense). Now I’m at home, I know that (dare I say it) I get bored of playing and the routine. Bring on the ME time. Xx #fortheloveofBLOG

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  6. I feel guilty about leaving my son at nursery and he’s not even going until January! Mum guilt is so heavy we really don’t need other people questioning our decisions. You’re not a bad mum for not feeling guilty about ‘me time’, you’re a good mum for being a good role model and I’m sure we’re all better parents when we get time to ourselves. #fortheloveofBLOG

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  7. I’m a stay at home mum but I would love to afford to put Little R into the childminders more often. Sometimes I crave ‘me time’ and I just have enough of being a parent. I think you are right to take time out, and I don’t think you should feel guilty! #fortheloveofblog

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  8. You do what is best for you and your family. No-one else has the right to judge or comment. Your son is happy and gets to spend time with just his mummy, just his daddy, with both of you together and with his little friends at nursery. What’s wrong with that?! Plus a happy mum is the best kind of mum… #fortheloveofBLOG

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  9. You shouldn’t feel guilty about having a little time to yourself, we all need it what ever stage our children are at. I think if we didn’t we would all go a little mad lol.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

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  10. I think you’ve found a great balance, because while you each get ‘me’ time, while the other is with him they also get ‘quality’ time, if that makes sense. I think having some time with him, then having some one on one time with him also is lovely. I worry as my boys get older and I am working part time, how will i figure out having quality one on one time with each alone? I think husband and I will need to work out a balance like you have xx #fortheloveofblog

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  11. How rude for someone to ask that! It doesn’t make you a bad parent for wanting a bit of time to do something just for you, after all you working is for all of you and hardly a break. Ignore them 🙂 Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie x

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  12. I’m a stay at home mum at the moment, so I do spend a lot of time with the children, however I really do crave some ‘me’ time. Someone very wise once told me that I had to look after me first because if I didn’t then I wouldn’t have the time and energy to give to the children, and she was so very right! A little bit of ‘me’ time, brings me back relaxed and full of energy to spend my time playing with and enjoying the kids! #fortheloveofblog

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  13. I’ve just started back at work and I have thought that a few times…am I spending too much time away from my little girl? But then I jolt myself out of it, happy mummy is happy kids and you have to do what’s right for you!! #fortheloveofblog

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  14. I think it’s so important to take care of ourselves. Life isn’t perfect and some of us have to work. If the gym put you in a better mood to be with your kids then it benefits everyone in the end. #fortheloveofBLOG

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  15. All the time! Although I would love some more me time. There’s nothing to feel guilty about, having me time ensures that you have a clear head to not think about work, child or house to focus on you. It’s something that I’m really guilty of not doing, working full time too, but with no me time. We all need that in our lives. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

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  16. I’d like to spend everyday with my girls and my baby boy but I also need to work full time to pay for the things we need like the mortgage, food and heating.. plus working keeps me sain. In an ideal world I would have a nice well paid part time job but these are rare to come by.

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