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Your child is ginger? I’m sorry!

I read something this week about ginger children. It hit a nerve with me which was hard to shake off.

It was a topic of conversation regarding ginger haired people including comments from some adults that feel sorry for those that have ginger children.

The reason they might feel sorry for them? Bullying of course.

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Yes the world is really still that cruel. But is it really any wonder when even adults are still talking about a hair colour?

Now I am a red head. I absolutely hated it at school and tried to dye it blonde to dull the colour down a bit to stop as many children taking the mick out of me.

The micky taking then turned in to severe bullying. Leaving school was the best day of my life. I hated everything about school due to the turmoil I had to go through on a daily basis. To this day if I sit in a conference I have to sit at the back of the room (yes I am a grown woman) – yet I am still scarred from things being thrown at me in class or pinned to my back at school.

Yes I have ginger hair. Yes I may be a little paler than others. Yes I only have to look at the sun to turn in to a beetroot. I do not need others to point this out to me.

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Why can’t people support others and appreciate that everyone is different? Because different is scary. Different isn’t something that anyone wants to be in this world.

School was really traumatic for me as a red head. So when I had my child 2 years ago and saw he was also a little red head, my heart dropped through my chest. What if he goes through what I went through?

Then you read ridiculous comments from parents that should know better. We should be teaching our children that there is no such thing as a weird or different hair colour. That everyone is really the same.

If parents are still thinking this about ginger haired parents and children, what will their children think when they start school?

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There is on a positive note, a lot of love for ginger hair and lots of support. So lets teach our children that it doesn’t matter if you are big or small, tall or short, ginger or brunette (or blonde obviously), everyone is the same person inside!

And to all those people that taunt us gingers and give our children a sympathetic nod…maybe you wish you had our hair colour? But one things for sure, you definitely couldn’t pull it off as well as us.

Busy Working Mummy XOXO

The Pramshed
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16 thoughts on “Your child is ginger? I’m sorry!

  1. I absolutely love ginger hair! I have heard stupid comments made by grown adults which is ridiculous but in my view, and I’m not sure if this fact is true, but apparently ginger hair is dying out in our genetics which would be a crying shame! Mega love for gingers and a bottle of hair dye for the haters!

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  2. I don’t understand where all this ginger discrimination has come from – if you look back at a lot of Victorian paintings, it was considered a sign of beauty. Maybe it’s from the days of discrimination against the Irish? I don’t know, but it’s crazy how many adults (and even the law) seem to see it as acceptable and different from other discrimination anyway.

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  3. My partner is ginger, Im a dark blonde/light brown and when I was pregnant with her little brother, my stepdaughter (at age 6) would constantly ask “What are you going to do if the baby is ginger?”
    If she wasn’t a child, absorbing those comments like a sponge, then I would have said some very mean things, but I brushed it off, smiled and told her about how much I loved ginger things, like her Daddy and Irn Bru.

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  4. Oh I so feel you on this one!! My little boy has (gorgeous, obviously) ginger hair and we currently can’t walk down the street without someone commenting on it. The comments from strangers are generally positive but it’s so weird that people feel they can comment!! He starts school in September and I am worried for him, especially when people including his own grandad have made disparaging comments to me about it. All we can do is do our best to boost their self esteem so it’s full to bursting, and hope to goodness that not everyone feels this is ok xx ps your boy is gorgeous xx

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  5. Well said. I dont know why this is seen as the curse of ginger hair and I think it’s sad that kids still get teased and bullied for it. Every one of us is different and unique and it’s about time we saw this and certainly don’t pass this short sightedness onto our children. #forthrloveofBLOG

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  6. I absolutely love ginger hair! Some of the most beautiful people I know are ginger! I don’t understand the discrimination. We have a lot of ginger in our family and proud of it. A fantastic post and a gorgeous photo of you and your little one. #fortheloveofBLOG

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  7. My son is a red head and I love it, when he was a baby it was very sparse and orange, but now it is a beautiful deep auburn/red thick head of hair, I wish I had it I have to say, but sadly he has been bullied most of his high school years and a head of year suggested to me he dyed it to stop the bullying! dont get me started! even recently my own cousin asked me where my son got his “carrot top” from and i wanted to punch her, our family has a history of red heads and I was very offended that an adult used a term like carrot top. My son has won several modelling contracts so It can’t just be me that thinks he is beautiful! Kids will always be nasty, they pick on people with glasses, with spots, with BO, with dandruff, greasy hair, (this was when I was at school) Im not sure it will ever change, but if we can educate our children to love everyone and not to be so cruel, we can maybe reduce the nastiness.

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  8. I have very similar concerns as I have a boy with the most beautiful read hair. I was bullied a lot but not for my hair and would hate to see my son go through. Will never understand why people hate anything that makes you different. Good luck to ya!#ForTheLoveOfBlog

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  9. Ah I really hope times have changed a bit – I was teased a lot at school for my red hair and it did get worse in secondary school, yet, still in all honestly, I was a bit gutted that I haven’t passed the ginger gene to any of my children. I think it’s getting better – I’m a teacher and kids seem nicer about these things but then I live in a very diverse community in all ways now but didn’t when I was little so maybe this makes a difference. I am surprised that the media can still be so mean and unhelpful tho – that makes a huge difference. I love the photos – you both look great X #fortheloveofBLOG

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  10. I’m ginger, I had exactly the same experiences.
    However now I find ginger is much more ‘fasionable’ now than when I was at school.
    I have five children and one of them is as red as they come. He is seven now and loves his ginger hair.
    I just hope it lasts

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  11. Does this still happen in the world today, are we still making fun of people for the colour of their hair? I find it so hurtful, when it is perfectly acceptable for people to have streaks of colour through their hair – pink, green, blue. I hope that your Son doesn’t endure any bullying for his hair colour, and I’m really sorry that you had a hard time at school (there are some awful people out there). Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

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  12. My boy is ginger and we’ve celebrated it. I tell him that I’m the odd one out in our family and I wish I was ginger. There are about 5 beautiful ginger children in his year group at school and all the mums celebrate it and call them the Ginga Ninjas.
    There are so many gorgeous ginger role models too now. We can make ginger something people want to be!

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  13. I had ginger hair as a child (it’s gone a lot lighter now) but wasn’t really bullied, just the occasional teasing as kids do. I suppose I was lucky. My daughter has ginger hair and I do worry about bullying, hopefully she’ll be lucky like I was, it can be a cruel world out there x

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  14. So pleased to read this! When my son was born to me (brunette) and my husband (dark brown) his ginger hair came as a big surprise but when I thought about it, my late mum, two late grandmothers and late father in law ALL had auburn or reddish hair colour so his is the culmination of all those lovely genes. I do worry about it when he gets to secondary school as I know kids can be horrible but we talk about it and say how cool Ed Sheeran, Prince Harry etc are…and there are three other kids in his class with red hair so he’s not that unusual. It’s terrible that you were bullied and I don’t understand sometimes how it’s not taken more seriously but horrible kids will always be horrible kids (and adults) and it’s up to us to know we are better than them and teach our kids to grow up to be confident and caring people. ..which I’m sure your son will be xx

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