It is Sunday morning and I have that feeling again. I really want to go to Zumba this morning and have a bit of me time but I have that niggly feeling. I cannot put my finger on it exactly but I think it is guilt.
Hubby has been laid in bed for half an hour and I have looked after little man for an hour. Technically I will only be an hour and a quarter so he doesn’t need to look after him for much longer than what I have already done on my own this morning?
This is ridiculous. When did it get that bad that I was counting the hours and working out who had looked after little man the most that day, and it is only 8.30am?
Why do I feel guilty for leaving hubby to look after his own son? Surely it isn’t a problem. It is in my head.
When did parenthood become a competition? Is it for other parents but just not widely spoken about?
I saw a t-shirt on facebook this week which summed it up perfectly. It basically implied that a dad wasn’t babysitting if they were looking after their own child.
It is so true. If hubby wants to go off for an hour to the pub with his mates, then he should be able to. If I want to go to the gym at a weekend, then that is perfectly acceptable. It is about team work.
As long as we all still get adequate family time and have fun together then that is really all that matters.
It shouldn’t always be down to the mum to look after the child and manage the endless lunch and changing bags when going out on a day trip. Yet it certainly seems that way.
So let’s make a pact. The next time us mummy’s want to go out for an hour with the girls or go to the gym, let’s not feel guilty for asking daddy to look after his own child.
It should be a time to bond with their child and have fun on their own. Plus daddy’s always tend to be more fun, as we are always the ones that have to implement rules and naughty steps.
Maybe that’s another topic for debate?
Busy Working Mummy XOXO
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