So at the moment I am away in Cornwall for 6 days with family, staying with my in-laws. It should be a great opportunity to sit down, relax and not worry about doing anything.
But how easy is it to actually just stop?
For me, it is incredibly difficult and has been for a really long time. I don’t sit down and stop that often. I get up at 5.50am and sit down at the end of the day at 8pm after working a full day, doing bath and bed time with little man, and cooking and cleaning up after dinner.
Weekends are spent co parenting with hubby, swimming, going on walks and running around with an on the go typical toddler.
So when the opportunity comes to have some time to myself, and for hubby and I, it should be relatively straight forward. Well, it isn’t.
I have to fight against every bone in my body to ensure that I relax and ‘go with the flow’.
Someone comes up with an idea to go out, and I am the one planning the day, thinking about when little man needs to eat or nap, and providing the negative barriers. I think that is what happens when you are a mother of a young child in general.
I have always been a planner, an organiser, and a complete control freak. The words ‘lets see what happens’ would never come out of my mouth.
Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how you look at it, my hubby’s family all operate on this ‘lets see what happens’ system.
It certainly tests me and pushes my limits, but that is a good thing. I need to leave my comfort zone occasionally and try to chill and see what happens.
9 times out 10 I come out looking boring and like I suck the fun out of everything. I plan things down to a tee so that when we are back at home, just hubby, little man and I, we all know what we are doing and what needs to happen when. The ability to just stop and do nothing when we do have family around us to lend a hand is a difficult concept.
Some may be able to just sit and chill, but others aka crazy mummy’s like me, just cannot.
It isn’t a bad thing, as long as we try. As long as we accept how we potentially come across to others and are okay with that, then ultimately that is fine. I am happy, and my little man is happy and having an amazing time away, so what more could we really want?
Who else finds it really hard to suddenly stop when it comes to holiday time with family? If it comes naturally to you, please offer your words of wisdom.
Busy Working Mummy XOXO