The third installment of ‘Why I won’t’ may be a controversial one in many people’s opinions.
Now little man went on holiday to Spain when he was 10 months old, and I think I just got away with being able to cope with it then. Going any later, and it would have caused an absolute meltdown – by me, not him.
Some parents go abroad every year at least once, twice if they are lucky. We could go abroad this year if we wanted to, and take little man away with us, but the only trip on a plane this year will be hubby and I…alone.
Am I cruel? Am I depriving my child? Well, that is up to others to decide.
Personally, I did not cope with our first family holiday well. Little man had just started crawling and pulling himself up on furniture, but luckily could still sit for longer periods of time. But, it was boiling hot, he was still on bottles, he was trying new foods, it just was a really bad time for him developing.
I spent the whole week stressing out, and running around after a baby learning to crawl, trying to do everything I could to make sure he was as comfortable as possible. Trying to keep to a similar routine that he had at home to make sure he was settled was really difficult.
We endured restless nights every night as we were all in the same room together, and he was not the super happy baby he was back in the UK. He was happy, don’t get me wrong, and took things in his stride but he definitely wasn’t himself for the week.
We then went to Center Parcs at the end of the year. It was in the UK so there was no plane journey where you had to try and keep him occupied. Also there was no clambering over innocent passengers sat next to us.
It was the same climate he was used to, there was loads to do for the children, no time difference to worry about, and all the same food and facilities as normal.
I could have a break away from home and housework, and enjoy being away with him for the few days.. Enjoy being the optimum word.
I am not sure I could cope with going abroad at this stage of little mans development. He would not sit still on a plane, he wouldn’t be able to amuse himself for 3 hours, and once we were there, well, who knows what would happen.
Now I do understand some people will think that I am depriving him of experiences, and that they are really adaptable at that age.
Yes I agree, totally. But if I am not comfortable in doing it, why would I put my family through it.
There are so many great places to explore in the UK. Why shouldn’t we take advantage of that until he gets a little older and at a better stage in his development to also understand he is going on holiday.
Maybe next year when he can play games, read books, talk to us a bit more and have his own seat on the plane we may consider it.
Simple things like being in a bed rather than a cot, not needing milk before bedtime, being potty trained…all these things that drop off as he grows up will make going abroad more flexible with a small child.
So that is why I won’t be going abroad with little man in the near future. What about you? Would you take them abroad at such a young age?
Have you like I have, decided it wasn’t for your family for a while? Or do you take them on lots of trips away already?
I would love to hear your views and experiences.
Busy Working Mummy XOXO