I was inspired to write this post based on what I didn’t know when I was expecting my first child. No one ever told me really what to expect or how I would feel, which was good as things like that should really be left to your own judgment. That being said, I would still have wanted a little help and a nudge in the right direction.
I am a busy bee and the thought of starting maternity leave 2 weeks before I was due bored me to tears. I didn’t know what to do, didn’t know what I was supposed to be doing, and I was a massive whale at this point so couldn’t actually do much anyway.
So here is my light hearted guide about things you might like to know when preparing for the birth of your first child:
- Keep busy, and active! Yes really. I know you should be using the start of maternity leave to ‘nest’ and prepare for chaos to descend on the household but keeping busy keeps you active. People that tell you to rest and put your feet up don’t really help, as yes as nice as it is having a hot cup of tea and reading a magazine in peace is lovely, it lures you into a false sense of what is to come. Don’t get used to sitting down and then you can’t miss it when it stops.
- It doesn’t matter how organised you think you are, you still won’t be organised enough when your little one makes an appearance. There will be things you forget but don’t worry, the 24 hour supermarkets are great to pop in in the middle of the night….you won’t be asleep with a new-born anyway so you may as well use the time to your advantage.
- Don’t eat a full portion of fish & chips whilst telling everyone you are not in labour when you clearly are – they will come back up pretty quickly and you wont be able to eat them again for a while after.
- Don’t wash your hair when you realise you are in labour because it is ‘greasy’. You won’t have time to straighten it so it will look like a massive frizzy mess and you aren’t going to care what you look like in the hospital anyway.
- I went from slight discomfort to full on labour in the space of 2 hours. The midwife was telling me to stay at home, make a spa in my bathroom, to relax and that I wouldn’t need to come in for ages. I had little man at 12.52am so if I did stay at home then I would have had a home birth. You have to listen to your body and trust your instincts. I am so glad I did. I felt like I was being a wimp needing to go into hospital early as I couldn’t deal with the pain anymore. When getting there they realised he was pretty much ready to make an appearance. Please listen to yourselves, and not always the midwife.
You go through so many emotions when you are pregnant and in the early stages of having a baby. It feels like you are in a bubble that is never going to pop. I genuinely had a good pregnancy and birth so I count myself incredibly lucky.
I am aware of so many ladies who go through so many different experiences. I would love to hear from you all about what advice you would give a pregnant mum about to go on maternity leave?
I think that the bottom line is…nothing can truly prepare you for what is about to happen, but you do get through it.
Signing off for the day
Busy Working Mummy XOXO