Last week was a week of celebrations with hubby’s birthday and our 4 year wedding anniversary, but why was I not that bothered about it all?
To me, they are just normal days with a few presents and cards thrown in for good measure.
Does that make me a bad person….or even a mean one?
When asked what I was getting hubby for his birthday, my answer was ‘Just a few little things and a special gift from the little man’….what else does he need? When asked what I was getting him for our anniversary, my answer was – Nothing.
To me I would much rather have flowers and thoughtful gifts bought for me on those ‘normal’ days rather than because he feels he has to as it is a special day in the calendar. We had agreed that we wouldn’t get each other anything but we would make an effort to go out for dinner on our own at some point.
I wasn’t always like that. As much as I love lots of presents and vouchers (doesn’t anyone?), now I have a family of my own I would much rather go out for the day, have a nice lunch together or have a weekend away making memories.
Although, note for hubby……a few special presents here and there wouldn’t go amiss!
I did find some great presents when looking for his birthday this year though. Men are so difficult to buy for and when I ask, I get greeted with the standard ‘I don’t want anything really.’
I love notonthehighstreet.com for special gifts and I found a cute holder for cufflinks and his watch which I got engraved to say ‘Daddy’s things.’ It is a lovely keepsake item but also incredibly useful.
I struggle with loungewear for him as he is 6ft 3 and no trousers really fit him without being just below his calf and looking ridiculous – not that he is bothered obviously. NEXT do an amazing range where you can select ‘long leg’ so I would recommend their loungewear for any tall men out there.
I won’t use this post to boast about how being married is amazing and confess my eternal love to my husband. That isn’t me, or us a couple. A successful marriage takes work and understanding. We are still finding the right balance now we have our little man, and finding time for ourselves. Click here to read more on my ‘Merits of Marriage’ post I wrote back in August.
I am of course incredibly proud of what we have achieved over the past 4 years and building such a wonderful little family and life together. I wouldn’t have it any other way. We will continue to work together as a couple and as parents and always do the best for each other and our little man.
So is there too much pressure on buying extravagant gifts for occasions these days? Are we in danger of forgetting what really matters?
Signing off for the day
Busy Working Mummy XOXO